How to Find a Sponsor for Alcoholism and Drug Addiction Recovery

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A sponsor is a key component to successfully recovering from alcoholism or drug addiction through the 12-step programA sponsor is a key component to successfully recovering from alcoholism or drug addiction through the 12-step program. Your sponsor is the sympathetic support person with whom you can share anything in relation to your recovery process, no matter how embarrassing. Your sponsor is the person who will take you through the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) or Narcotic Anonymous (NA).

A sponsor’s support is necessary for a successful recovery. But how do you choose this crucial mentor?

Find Someone Whose Progress You Admire

Alcoholics Anonymous recommends that you simply approach someone in the program whose progress you greatly admire. As a newcomer to any 12-step program, you may feel shy or embarrassed about asking someone — sometimes a complete stranger — to help guide you on your recovery from alcoholism or drug addiction. Don’t worry! In fact, most program veterans are honored to be asked to become a sponsor and will take you on willingly.

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Interview Potential Sponsors

Narcotics Anonymous proposes that you interview potential sponsors to ensure long-term compatibility. Sticking with one sponsor is typically a better bet than juggling multiple sponsors. Rather than jumping from mentor to mentor looking for the answer you want to hear, trust the wisdom that comes from the experience and steadfastness of one person. This approach works best and can help you to overcome your addiction to drugs or alcohol.

As a word of caution, it is always best to choose a sponsor to whom you have no romantic attraction, as this can detract from the recovery process. Organizations that utilize sponsors suggest that “women should stick with the women” and “men should stick with the men.”

Look for Different Perspectives

You don’t have to choose a sponsor who is exactly like yourself. For example, you and your sponsor may share different hobbies and interest, ethnic or cultural backgrounds, or even different religious affiliations. But, since your goal is to focus on the 12 steps, you might find that someone different from you will really help you to concentrate on making the changes that matter.

You might also benefit from experiencing a different perspective on your alcoholism or drug addiction. Once again, finding the right sponsor is about having patience, trust, and not being afraid to go out on a limb.

Don’t Get Discouraged

Crystal Meth Anonymous suggests that you shouldn’t be discouraged if a potential sponsor turns down your request, as it may be for a good reason. If the potential sponsor is too busy or thinks there may be a personality conflict, then he or she probably cannot provide you with the kind of support you’ll need. Keep trying and trust that you will find the right sponsor to help you with your drug addiction or alcoholism.

Although there are no hard and fast rules for choosing a sponsor, most experts agree that you should look for someone who has maintained at least one year of sobriety from drugs and alcohol.

Take time to look for a sponsor who you think will be able to offer you the support and guidance you need to ensure a lasting recovery from alcoholism or drug addiction.

64 thoughts on “How to Find a Sponsor for Alcoholism and Drug Addiction Recovery

  1. Eric

    I also need a sponsor. I attend meetings but they never talk about the “who or how to get a sponsor,” just that you need one.

    1. brandy m hudgins

      When you’re at the meeting, after the meeting go up to the talker and ask him who you can get as a sponsor.

  2. Stephen Paul Cafagna

    Hello, I’m twenty eight years old. I will be twenty nine on September 7th. I’ve been on and off drugs my whole life. I just wanted to stop.

  3. Ray

    I would like to know if someone can have a virtual sponsor…i mean someone u never meet personally but can call or whatsapp

  4. Sarah A. Caudill

    I simply need some help getting off of drugs and I don’t know how to do it myself.

  5. Salome Young

    I just married my hubby but he is cross addicted to alcohol and drugs. He wants to stay clean but temptation are everywhere in leesport. He needs a great support to help him deal with his addiction. He has hit rock bottom and he wants to save our marriage. Please call me so my hubby and I can get help. I can’t do it by myself

  6. Jennifer berg

    Looking for a female sponsor to talk to. I don’t like AA. Just need someone that is neutral to me. Also to give me a piece of mind.

  7. William kerensky

    I’m just trying to find someone that can help me when I’m about to go use and take me places to talk about it

  8. Douglas ordonez

    I need a sponsor or someone to help me and motivate me to the right path. Never had anybody to look up to or talk to for help.

  9. Joshua Yoakum

    i need a sponsor, i lost all trust in the ones i had. once i graduated from salvation army, they abandoned me and ive been relapsing after 8 months clean.

  10. Keani Grace

    I’m in need of a sponsor it has to be a female that is part of the house regulations I am an in-house patient in Pahoa at the access and capabilities I’m having the hardest time finding a sponsor can you please help me find one my two weeks are almost up and I need to find a sponsor for my two weeks

  11. Elizabeth

    I am writing this on asking for help my boyfriend has a heroin problem and he’s hanging out with his ex-girlfriend arm I found out that they’re back together and they do Halloween together and need you also to other drugs arm and she is a very arm manipulating woman and our use a sex with him and arm I want to know if I can find a sponsor that can be a good role model that can influence in his life to make good positive changes could someone please get back with me.

  12. Andy

    Hi iv been a functional drug addictic for years but it’s really wearing me down now, need some form of help can’t keep this up!

    1. admin Post author

      Hi Tyrone,
      If you click on the links to AA and NA above, you’ll be able to use their meeting finder to find a meeting near you. You’ll have the most success finding a sponsor at one of your local meetings.

  13. Earl

    How do I find someone to talk to About Addiction without letting everyone in my life finding out I just really need a sponsor to help me stay focuse while I work on my addiction before it gets out of control but I do need privacy as I beat this

  14. Ida Fowler

    Looking for a good listener I’ve been clean for almost two years…….I’m single and not from here …..I’m in South Bend Indiana area…..

  15. Shawn Ewings

    My son is in prison at the at the time and hopefully he will be out by May. He/I would like to know is there a program/sponser that he can connect with upon his departure from prison?

    thank you for your assistance in this very important matter.

  16. JaredChavez

    Im look for someone to help me stay on the right path.I keep goinging back to the same bad path.Im36 yrs old still acting like im 21 and my family is tired of my say mistakes i made in this life.I lost my dad to a drug and im going down that same round.No friends that want to be clean.pleases if anyone knows where im coming from get ahold of me please asap its had thing to kiick hete in colotado.Jared

  17. junelyn fullido

    hi im junelyn fullido a single mother. i have 5 kids.i need sponsor for my son his in rehab for how many months but until now his not ok. i dnt have money to support his meds and montly payment for the rehab. any one plesssss i really need someone who can help my son. someone who can save my son. thank you.

    1. Clearview Treatment Programs Post author

      Please call us at (866) 339-3544 so we can talk to you about our treatment programs. Thank you.

  18. Kaylynn Stauch

    I don’t want my family to know that I’m a drug addict, and have no way of transportation to get to any kind of meeting but I really need a sponsor, or someone to talk to, when I start feeling like I wanna get high. Is there anyway to get the help I need?

  19. Luke Johnson

    I don’t wanna sound like everyone else but I’m so desperate to find a way out of the mess I’m in. I’m gunna lose my business and my family if I don’t find a way. This is my last chance at finding a way to beat my addiction. Please someone help me

  20. Eva Cavazos

    I really need a sponsor to help me with my addiction.Because its getting to the point. Where i cant stop.

  21. Sarah

    I could 100% go to my family, tell them I’m an addict and have their full support. I just can bring myself to do it. I called “frank” it was pointless. Called another number and the guy was amazing, he’d been an addict for 25 years, could have spoken to him all day but that’s not his job. I’m really just looking to find someone like that who I can talk/relate too,that understands as a first step. I have no idea what/how/where to turn and I’m desperate for help.

  22. Stormie


    I have a friend that is currently serving out her remaining sentence for narcotics. She will be released in five months time. She has asked for my to reach out in hopes that she can find a sponsor to help her through her journey to keep a sober life. If anyone would be interested in writing to her please let me know. She’s looking for someone who can relate to her.

  23. Ashly

    Yes looking for a sponsor for my daughter’s father. He recently overdosed In a jail. In need of some help please contact me.

    1. Clearview Treatment Programs Post author

      Hi, if you are looking for a treatment program, please call us at (866) 339-3544 so we can talk to you about our treatment programs. Thank you.

  24. Shanterica

    Hello im in need if a sponsors for drug recovery. I dint really know where to start with this so if possoble can someone uelp me with this asap. Thank you.

    1. Clearview Treatment Programs Post author

      Hi, if you are looking for a treatment program, please call us at (866) 339-3544 so we can talk to you about our treatment programs. Thank you.

    1. Clearview Treatment Programs Post author

      Hi, if you are looking for a treatment program, please call us at (866) 339-3544 so we can talk to you about our treatment programs. Thank you.

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